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June 4, 2021 – Mike’s Birthday

Posted by Jim on June 4, 2021
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Mike’s Bithday – He Would Have Been 40 Today 

Today one of Mike’s friends and school mates – Shantelle Hampton,  posted this on her Faebook timeline.
Mike would have turned 40 today.
Love the sentiment and the greater message and felt compelled to share it.
“This is the year that many friends and I are turning 40. There are feelings of disbelief and awe as we reach this milestone birthday.
Questions like “where did the time go?” and “how did we get here?” swirl through minds and catch us off guard without warning.
We are turning 40- But there’s someone who isn’t. There’s someone who isn’t counting grey hairs or lamenting about back pain. There’s someone who isn’t plagued by constant fatigue or contemplating life’s accomplishments.
Today Mike would have turned 40.
To those of you who had the pleasure of knowing such a remarkable human, and even those who didn’t, let’s raise a glass-
To friendship,
To love,
To all the experiences of aging-
Because we get to.”

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Mike’s Rules – Rules For A Hockey Player – And Maybe Some For Life

Posted by Jim on November 25, 2020
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Mike’s Rules – Rules For A Hockey Player – And Maybe Some Rules For Life

This was something Mike wrote in his hockey diary/journal when he was 9 or 10 years old.

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Don Cherry – Hockey Night In Canada – Death Of Mike Serba

Posted by Jim on June 4, 2020
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Don Cherry – Hockey Night In Canada

Death Of Mike Serba

Today would have been Mike’s birthday

Miss the kid

Don Cherry – Hockey Night in Canada – Death of Mike Serba

 

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Covid19 – Some Thoughts

Posted by Jim on April 6, 2020
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Covid19 – Some Thoughts

When our governments first took action and forced the closure of so called “non-essential” businesses, there was one overwhelming thought that stuck in my mind. They had no idea and no concept of the economic damage that they have inflicted by this order .

I’m no doctor or specialist in infectious diseases and nor am I am economic expert. It’s just that I’ve been around about 100 years (lol) and experienced and done a variety of………………………………

Screw It!

I started to write some comments and then thought screw it ……nobody is going to care about a long dissertation by me about the current Covid19 crisis, so I will just let you reflect on this.

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What Are You Working On To Be Your Best? – (XXXVIII)

Posted by Jim on March 24, 2020
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What Are You Working On To Be The Best You Can Be?

Don’t Be A One Trick Pony

With over 40 plus years of involvement in hockey including coaching, scouting teams & players and 15 years teaching hockey skills; there is one thing that has always stuck in my mind when I watch players in action.

For some reason most players develop a favorite move along with the skating and stick-handling skills to support that move. Probably they were fascinated by some move they saw a pro player do and dedicated themselves to learning it. It becomes their strength. It becomes their “go-to” move and their comfort zone.

But here’s the problem. I can guarantee you that after a year or so, everyone in the league will know your “go-to” move and for the most part shut you down.

You’ll Need To Get Out Of Your Comfort Zone

Under pressure everyone reverts to their comfort zone. Like it or not, that’s just what happens.

Learning and doing something new takes one out of their comfort zone. Learning something new feels different. The moves and skill sets don’t feel natural. You have to think about what you doing and the brain gets engaged. The need to engage the brain in itself inhibits fluid and skillful execution at the early stages or learning something new. But this is the process. This is what is required to learn something new and develop to the point where it is natural and it will not become natural without constant and many repetitions.

Hockey is played under pressure and under pressure everyone reverts to their comfort zone. It’s what you’ve practiced. It’s what you know. Under pressure it’s what you’ll revert to.

Think About It

Your strengths will always be your strengths, but what about your weaknesses?

You love the slap shot. You’ve practiced it constantly and you’re good at it and sometimes you score a goal. If you’re like most kids I’ve watched, you probably take forever to set it up, glide in to the shot, transfer your weight to your front foot as you shoot, and veer to one side after the shot.

But do you have a wrist shot … a snap shot …. a backhand? Are you able to place the puck where you want? Can you shoot all types of shots while in stride from either foot and square up to the net for a potential rebound after shooting?

This just involves some aspects of shooting on net and nowhere near the full breadth of this subject. The full spectrum of skill sets that make up becoming a great hockey player is vast.

My advice to you is to figure out what your weaknesses are and begin to work on them. Think about it; your greatest opportunity to improve as a player is to work on your weaknesses.

When you’re at a practice or hockey school session; go with the purpose to work on a specific area of your weaknesses.

In my next blog I’ll go over some of my exprience and observations to provide some understanding of the process and challeges of working on new skills.

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Truth About Hockey – Main Key To Success – Attitude – (XXXVII)

Posted by Jim on February 20, 2020
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Attitude

If I have to name  the one key thing that’s a main factor contributing to success or failure in hockey, I would have to say it’s a player’s attitude.

Sadly, I’ve seen players develop a bad attitude and watched performance and prospects dwindle and eventually die.

Life Isn’t Fair And Hockey Is Just A Slice Of Life

As in life, not everything in your hockey experience is going to go your way.

Think about it; perfection doesn’t exist and that’s just reality. The ice isn’t perfect …. a great pass can hit an imperfection in the ice and jump over a stick. The referees are imperfect human beings that can miss a call or make a bad call and after making a bad call they are likely to act like human beings and stay with the call. Coaches are imperfect human beings and will make poor decisions. And by the way; you as a player are far from perfect.

The biggest problems develop from coaching decisions that a player feels negatively impacts their ice time or stature in the line up.

You as a player have control over how you choose to react.

 Advice For Parents

There are several main areas in which parents can be of great help to your hockey player child.

One is to be aware of and make sure that they’re not being inhibited be fear. I wrote about this recently and you can review my thoughts in the Blog titled “Fear And Loathing In Las Hockeyville”.

Another, but related situation is to make sure that they are not unrealistic in their expectations related to skills development. All too often they see a highly skilled player display an effortless ease in the performance of a skill and wonder why they struggle with that same skill. I can assure that when it comes to development of demanding physical skills (regardless of the discipline) you have to pay your dues. Its takes time, effort and practice. When they watch someone perform a difficult skill with ease; what they didn’t see was the time and effort put out in the development of that skill.

Last but most important please …. please ….. please do not enable a negative attitude. Every normal parent wants the best for their children but I’m amazed at the number of parents who instinctively do exactly the wrong thing when trying to help their child. It seems to me that in the modern world in which we live, we have to make sure everybody just feels good. I’ve seen a number of situations a where a parent dumps on the coach in some misguided effort to support their child. The following is a real example and not the only instance where I’ve seen this happen:                                                                      There was really good player in the Toronto minor hockey system. He was drafted high to the OHL and initial prospects and ranking for the NHL draft were good. However being a 17 year old rookie in the OHL you’re not exactly treated as you were in Midget hockey as “the go-to guy”. I would overhear the boy’s father speaking to his son and say things like …. “the coach is an idiot and doesn’t know what he’s doing” …… “he has you on the wrong line with the wrong line mates” ….. “your line mates are useless and don’t know how to take or give a pass”. The players attitude went south …. his play went south ……. prospects and ranking for NHL draft went south. He never played a game in the NHL.

Make The Coach Look Foolish

To repeat; the biggest problems develop from coaching decisions that  a player feels negatively impacts their icetime or stature in the line up.

You as a player have control over how you choose to react.

Believe it or not, hockey at the higher levels is ultimately quite nondiscriminatory and dispassionate. The reason is very simple. At the higher levels, ownership, management and coaching just wants and needs to win. Winning is everything. Success, money and keeping your job depends on winning. Nobody cares how much money Daddy has or how nicely Mommy smiles as she talks to the coach. I’ve written previously that I think there are a lot of lousy coaches out there but  for the most part even the lousy ones are able to figure out which players are making the biggest contribution to the cause. Ultimately your ability to contribute to the cause with determine your ice time and your success.

If you not getting the ice time you think you deserve, I suggest your best choice is to work your ass off and prove different.

You Haven’t Made It Until You’ve Made It …… And Even Then ……

Back just before the NHL strike around 2005 we used have an annual pro-camp that was attended by a good number of NHL players and top prospects to the NHL currently playing in the AHL or OHL. NHL players that attended included Jason Spezza, Steven Stamkos, Brent Burns, Manny Malholtra and Rick Nash. I can tell you that all of these guys worked their asses off. Their work ethic was almost maniacal … and these guys were already in the NHL.

At the same time there were 2 brothers that were in the OHL. They were both drafted highly to the OHL and prospects for the NHL were initially very good. While the guys I mentioned above worked their asses off; these 2 brothers goofed off. Guess what? …. neither brother played a single game in the NHL.

You Haven’t Made It Until You’ve Made It …… And Even Then ……

Attitude

I’m not sure what the next topic will be. I’ll just wait to be struck by the muse.

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Truth About Hockey – Does Size Matter? – Conclusion – (XXXVI)

Posted by Jim on February 12, 2020
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Does Size Matter?

They Used To Say: “A Good Big Hockey Player Will Always Be Better Than A Good Little Hockey Player.”

But This Statement Is Not Fully Correct

To be fully correct, I believe the statement should read: “A Good Big Hockey Player Will Always Be Better Than A Good Little Hockey Player ….. Everything Else Being Equal”.

Think about it.

The Perfect Hockey Player

Thank about it. What qualities, skills or attributes would the perfect hockey player possess?

I did a Google search of articles written about the abilities and qualities required to be a good hockey player.

One article listed the following: “Skating – Shooting – Stick-handling/Puck Control – Hands – Passing/Play-making – On-Ice Vision“.

Another listed these: “Be Coachable – Have Intense Desire To Win- Be Willing To Practice – Be Willing To Make Sacrifices – …….”.

(I have to throw an editorial comment in here in about a lot of the articles that I read …. and that is I can’t believe the amount of superficial crap that’s is written out there.)

I’ve given considerable thought to this subject over the years and have come to the conclusion that if someone were to write a complete treatise about all of the skills, abilities and attributes that the perfect hockey player would have; it would take a lifetime of work ….. it would be an encyclopedia containing probably at least 20 volumes …. and the 21st volume would be a massive index to the other 20.

“….. Everything Else Being Equal”.

The fact is that the perfect hockey player does not exist ….. never has and never will. Everything will never be equal.  Size is only one factor. Is is important? …. of course it is. But size alone without sufficient other skills and attributes in the right mix will not achieve success. There are simply too many other factors that come into play. Too many factors that when sufficient in their number and their dimension; will make up for lack of size.

It’s a shame when scouting focuses mainly on size. This happens way too often and discourages many players of smaller stature from playing the game.

Look at some of the greatest players of all time: Theo Fleury – Yvan Cornoyer – Marcel Dionne – Henri Richard – Martin St Louis.

Current players of shorter stature include; Ryan Ellis of the Nashville Predators, Mats Zuccarello of the Dallas Stars, Tory Krug of the Boston Bruins, Brayden Point of the Tampa Bay Lightning, Patrick Kane of the Chicago Blackhawks  ……. and my all time favorite Brad Marchand of the Boston Bruins. Marchand drives me nuts. Every time Boston plays my home team Toronto; Marchand has a big part to play in us losing …. can’t stand him but you can bet that I’d love him if he played for Toronto.

(Looking at the official stats listed of the heights for the players listed above; I believe many of the measurements were taken with their skates on.)

The Bottom Line As I See It

Size alone without sufficient other skills and attributes in the right mix will not achieve success. There are simply too many other factors that come into play. Too many factors that when sufficient in their number and their dimension; will make up for lack of size.

“A Good Big Hockey Player Will Always Be Better Than A Good Little Hockey Player …. Everything Else Being Equal  ….. But Everything Else Will Never Be Equal.”

In the next couple of Blogs it occurs to me that it would be timely and useful to talk about what in my experience are important factors that contribute to or inhibit success in hockey. Stayed tuned.

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Truth About Hockey – Does Size Matter? – Part 2 – (XXXV)

Posted by Jim on February 9, 2020
Posted in: Hockey, hockey Skills, how to succeed in hockey, Jim Serba, mike serba memorial golf tournament, Russian hockey skills, size and hockey, Truth about hockey, understanding hockey.

Does Size Matter?

They Used To Say: “A Good Big Hockey Player Will Always Be Better Than A Good Little Hockey Player.”

From the mid 1970’s through to the early 2000’s, player size was the dominant factor in building your team.  N.H.L. defensemen  had learned the most effective way to stop a speeding forward was to use his stick to obstruct a rushing forward. While hooking, holding and interference were illegal tactics, they were effective and were not being called as penalties.

While the search was on for big strong defensemen, the search was also on for big strong powerful forwards that could stand the abuse and break through the obstruction.

During these years I noted the following observations in the minor hockey scene:

1.    The players that were smaller in stature had to develop their skills in order to survive and to be effective. Then as now and with certainty into the future; if you can’t be effective, you won’t be on the team and so the player smaller in stature went to hockey schools and developed their skills.

2.    As I’ve written before, one of the problems with hockey at the minor levels is that coaches are not really “coaches and teachers” they’re recruiters. If you have the best players, you don’t need to be a teacher and coach. You just throw them on the ice and win. In the recruitment process the larger stature player and his parents were were being told how great he was and what a great future he had.

If you’re already great , there’s not much need to work on your skills. I always thought it was a shame that larger stature players didn’t feel the need to work on their skills.

Things Change

The NHL was concerned that the play of the game had become slow, low-scoring and boring. In 2005 the NHL made some important rule changes.

  1.    The center ice line was removed for 2 line off side passes exiting a team’s home zone. This allowed for longChara-Gerbe “stretch” passes which forced defense to back off and opened up the ice adding speed to the play of the game.
  2.    There was now zero tolerance for any kind of obstruction; interference, hooking, holding or otherwise impeding a player’s progress except for a legitimate body check on a puck carrier. Defending players could no longer hook and “water ski” being dragged along behind a player. And when they said zero tolerance they meant zero tolerance. A trailing defender who even touched the elbow of a puck carrier in front of him was called for hooking even though there was no apparent effect on the puck carrier.

This had a tremendous effect on the speed of play of the game. The slow footed player was now at a big disadvantage. The quick, agile player was now allowed to show his skills and show the value of those skills to winning hockey games. The whole game changed.

One quick result was the elimination of the slow footed enforcer. Toughness and intimidation have always been a part of the game. Many teams had that one tough guy they could put out on the ice when some intimidation was needed. Many of these guys were not the most agile in the world but were not a liability under the old rules. Under the new rules with their lack of speed and agility, they became a liability.

They Used To Say: “A Good Big Hockey Player Will Always Be Better Than A Good Little Hockey Player.”

In part 3 I’ll give you my take on this subject.

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Truth About Hockey – Does Size Matter? – Part 1 – (XXXIV)

Posted by Jim on February 3, 2020
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Does Size Matter?

First Some History

Way back when there were a lot of hockey players quite a bit shorter than six feet tall. Back then there were only six teams and there wasn’t much money to made for hockey players in the NHL. Most players played for the love of the game and most had other jobs in the off-season.

In 1966 the NHL announced expansion and in the 1967-68 season there  was a total 12 teams playing in the NHL.

A big change came with the formation of the WHA (The World Hockey Association) a rival league to the NHL, which fielded 12 teams in 1972. The League struggled and was not considered much of a threat, until Bobby Hull; arguably the NHL’s top forward at the time, jumped to the new league. Hull was not thought to be seriously considering signing with the WHA and when he told reporters that he would only move to the WHA “for a million dollars”, it was both intended by Hull and taken by his audience to be a joke since a million dollars at that time was considered to be a ridiculous amount of money for a hockey player. Nevertheless, the Winnipeg Jets offered Hull a five-year, one million dollar contract with a one million dollar signing bonus. Hull’s move to the WHA attracted other first line NHL players and started a wage war between the rival leagues for top talent.

The net result was that hockey was now a very big and costly business and winning became ever more important. Making the play-offs and going deep or winning it all meant thousands of extra dollars to a team.

And Thus Came The Search For Size

The saying became; “A good big hockey player will always be better than a good little hockey player”.

I remember going to Toronto Maple Leaf games in the mid to late 1970’s and watching the Leafs play the Flyers in the Stanley Cup play-offs. At that time the Fliers were known as the “Broad Street Bullies” and the games were a virtual war and blood bath.

This was a time when size and toughness were the primary factors that were considered when selecting a hockey player. This was because of the rules at that time and the way the game was played under those rules.

The center red line was in play for off side passes which slowed down the advancement of a line rush. More important though were the rules on obstruction and fighting. When it came to obstruction and interference, we used to joke that a player could wrap his stick around the waist of an opposing player and “water ski” behind him by being dragged along the ice and not get a penalty. Slashing and hacking at a player was just a part of the game. When it came to intimidation and fighting, it was considered as important as any other asset in your arsenal for success.

Size and toughness became paramount to success.

What Happens At The Pro Level Filters Down To The Minor Hockey Level

The play of the game at the minor league levels tends to take it’s lead from the play of the game at the NHL and the play of the game quickly filters down to hockey at the very young age groups.

I used to hear this phrase from minor league hockey coaches:  “I can teach a player all kinds of things, but I can’t teach size”.

I know of coaches in the Greater Toronto Hockey League (the biggest minor hockey league in the world) that went out and recruited the biggest players they could find as the easiest pathway to coaching success.

I personally know of quite a number of players who were six foot two or three at the age of 16 that were given shots at the OHL and these players couldn’t tie the skates of much smaller skilled players who never got a look. This was happening through the 1980’s, 1990’s and early 2000’s.

They used to say: “A good big hockey player will always be better than a good little hockey player”.

Stay tuned for Part 2 of this series.

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Fear And Loathing In Las Hockeyville – (XXXIII)

Posted by Jim on January 27, 2020
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Fear And Loathing In Las Hockeyville

Or

The Mental And Psychological Part Of The Game

The mental and psychological aspects of an athletes comportment has become an important part of preparation in the modern sports world. In more recent time, this has been studied and better understood and there is hardly a professional athlete today who does not receive coaching in this important area.

You hear athletes refer to being in the zone or being in the moment while in the action of the game and being free from and fear or self doubt.

Fear

I want to deal with what I believe is the most important  area of the mental side of sports and that is the crippling effects of fear.  In this part I’m not dealing with physical fear (the fear of being hit and having and injury in hockey) but the other aspects of fear.

I have spent a great many hours in an arena as a coach and then countless more hours on the ice involved in the teaching and training of individual skills to hockey players. Most of my time in training hockey players was spent with young kids, however I was also fortunate enough to work with a number of first round NHL draft picks and highly successful NHL players.

Over the years I’ve become more and more aware of the effects of fear in the performance  of the hockey player athlete.

To categorize the aspects of fear that I’m talking about it would involve the following; the fear of making a mistake and looking stupid and the fear of letting someone down.

For Hockey Coaches

Trust me, no player wants to make a mistake that costs a goal and let his team mates down. It’s pretty much a guarantee that if you berate a player for a mistake, you increase the chance that the player will get scared crapless and make even more mistakes.

I’ve watched players playing with fear during a a game and it was easy to imagine the “thought bubble” above their heads a one would see in a cartoon comic book. These are players that are afraid and thinking about what they should do. But guess what? …. they’re already screwed …. the game is unfolding so fast that there is no time for thinking about what to do. The play of the game requires instantaneous reactions; not analysis and thinking about what to do. That will just not work.

Coaches should put players in an environment where they can play without the fear of being berated for making a mistake.  We don’t want them to make mistakes and mistakes should be pointed out; however, need to understand that making mistakes is part of the learning process.

As a coach you’re supposed to be a teacher. Point out and explain mistakes and then explain and teach the correct actions or choices.

For Hockey Parents

Every normal hockey parent wants their children to be successful, however I am constantly amazed at how parents often instinctively do the wrong thing and in fact hinder the success of their children.

Trust me; there is not a child out there that does not want to please their parents. They sense the enthusiasm and passion of their parents in relation to their sporting endeavors and all they want to do is please Mom and Dad.

First advice is to read the section above for coaches.

Second, it’s not just in the play of the game, it’s also about effort and performance in practices and at hockey school sessions. The same fear of making a mistake and looking foolish takes hold here as well. I’ve seen many kids give up on doing a new and difficult maneuver because of this fear.  Once again they need to understand making mistakes or not getting it perfect is part of the learning process. Additionally, to progress in skill they should understand the need to push their limits in practice and risk failure as a pathway to getting better.

It’s OK to expect a solid effort for the commitment of time and money to an endeavor; just don’t crap on them for making honest mistakes.

 

I’m not sure what the next topic will be. I’m waiting to struck by the muse, but it may be titled “Does Size Matter?”

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